“The people who are bullying you, they’re insecure about who they are, and that’s why they’re bullying you. It never has to do with the person they’re bullying. They desperately want to be loved and be accepted, and they go out of their way to make people feel unaccepted so that they’re not alone.” Madelaine Petsch
Mark Driscoll, as well as many people in this world, have a peculiar idea. If people don’t act or look, or do things the way I think they should, they must be sidelined. Why is this? It’s pretty simple. Such people do not feel comfortable in their skin. Anyone who sees or lives differently is to be suspect and isolated.
Two years ago, I posted about Mark Driscoll’s bizarre new church in Scottsdale: Dear Mark Driscoll. He’s Back and, If the Stories Are True, He Appears to Be Bonkers.* In this post, I discussed the sad tales of those who did not follow Driscoll exactly. They and their families would be suddenly thrown off the campus. These sudden and peculiar actions on the part of Driscoll were enlightening. Driscoll is terribly insecure. He got out of Seattle when people who had influence began to question his controlling and seemingly paranoid behavior.
Driscoll’s apparent insecurities cause him to measure how much he can trust others: Spectrum of Trust.
He learned his lesson. Upon arrival in Scottsdale, he was determined to never be in such a position again. So, he started a thing called the “Spectrum of Trust.” As you read the following, make sure that you understand that to have regular interactions with Driscoll and his family, you would have to be rated a “10” on a scale from “0-10.
Brandon said my ability to lead my family was in question because I was seen in a photo with a Pastor Dustin, whom you treated horribly and slandered. Brandon said he just sat through a staff meeting where you went over a “Spectrum of Trust” with the staff, where you rated individuals on a sliding scale of 0-10 based on how much trust you and the church have in them. He pulled up a picture he took from the dry erase board in your office and proceeded to brief me on this spectrum of trust. Brandon said that the higher the level of trust, the more access someone gets. I asked, “access to what?” to which Brandon replied, “The Driscolls because they are at level 10“. Once again, It’s All About the Driscolls.
In the post, I wrote about accusations that Driscoll does not allow inlaws (a couple of his kids are married)on the church campus. His kids hold positions in the church. Presumably, they are at the center of the Spectrum of Trust. He has an obedient security team whose job it is to protect him from people, or so it seems.
There was a group of men who were trusted to be part of Driscoll’s security entourage.
The detail was formed to provide safety for you and your family, with Marc Stirton running the screening and selection process for those so allowed to be in your “inner circle” as he is a “trusted” friend of the family.
…Having your entourage escort you from the parking lot to your office, to the sanctuary and back to the office, then back to the parking lot, and even driving you to and from your house is a tad dramatic
Driscoll is increasingly isolating himself and is allegedly building a secret corridor(I wonder if the church members are paying for this?)
You currently have an engineering team working on drafting the plans to blast a hole through the concrete and steel wall backstage to have a private entrance into your office from behind stage so you “don’t have to deal with being interrupted by people.”
Driscoll’s caricatures are a distortion of the faith.
Sadly, we are surrounded by people who will not trust or engage with others due to their fear of others. Jewish people are targeted simply for being Jewish. NPR reports that Threats against Palestinian, Muslim and Jewish people has spiked since the war began. Driscoll is like all of these people. He fears “the other.” He has placed himself as the “Arbiter of what is right,” and the equally insecure people who follow him will trust him to show them “Who is doing it wrong” and “Who it is we should laugh at.” There is no love in his equation.
Driscoll is not secure enough to say, “I disagree.” He needs to make fun of “the other” so his followers will know who is not accepted in their circles. He is a bully, exhibiting few fruits of the spirit as he belittles others to make himself look more significant in the eyes of his following.
If there is an unmarried lady in her 50s, she must have lots of cats as well as 2 STDs.
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There is an unmarried Christian woman on Twitter who was hurt and offended by Driscoll’s caricature. She said she had hoped to get married, but it hasn’t happened. She has no cats and certainly has no STDs. I think she, or someone else, made the point that loneliness in America is now an epidemic. Even those who have families can experience loneliness. I bet Mark Driscoll is lonely, but he has to preen and strut like he isn’t.”I’m not lonely. That woman over there is lonely, and she probably has 7 cats. Stop looking at me.”
At any moment, about one out of every two Americans is experiencing measurable levels of loneliness. This includes introverts and extroverts, rich and poor, and younger and older Americans. Sometimes loneliness is set off by the loss of a loved one or a job, a move to a new city, or health or financial difficulties — or a once-in-a-century pandemic.
Other times, it’s hard to know how it arose but it’s simply there. One thing is clear: Nearly everyone experiences it at some point. But its invisibility is part of what makes it so insidious. We need to acknowledge the loneliness and isolation that millions are experiencing and the grave consequences for our mental health, physical health and collective well-being.
As a group, we are all often lonely as well as insecure. However, we all do not take the opportunity to hurt other people to build ourselves up. Driscoll is a good speaker when he is not building up his ego. Unfortunately, he uses his gifts to tear others down. I wonder how many people ever get a “10” on his Spectrum of Trust. I bet few, if any, make it. I believe that Driscoll’s soul has been damaged in the process.
It is too bad that Driscoll has never had any training to be a pastor. He has done all of this on the fly. Unfortunately, he needs to make fun of others when he could be more like Jesus and see beyond the parody. However, his inability to let go of the inner insecure and lonely man has hindered him. He will end up with a church filled with other insecure people who laugh at his jokes and will pay him money. He is their stand-up comedian who is so shallow that he can’t see beyond a cat joke.
Driscoll continues to be a mean, third-grade bully because there isn’t anything more inside. He is to be pitied that he has wasted his life on hurting so many people.