Christian faith is… basically about love and being loved and reconciliation. These things are so important, they're foundational and they can transform individuals, families. Philip Yancey link
Update 9/10/17: At the request of both of the sons, Paul and Alex, we have removed several posts on this matter. Paul states that he deliberately misled his brother and has sought forgiveness from both his father and brother. I spoke with Paul at length. He shared some private aspects of his life which led me to believe him and also to understand the validity of his request. I can truthfully say I can understand why he said what he did at the time. Please feel free to email me with any questions.
TWW and the Greniers
Over the last couple of months, TWW has been contacted by members of the Robert Grenier family, alerting us to their full reconciliation as a family. We were asked by all involved family members to scrub our posts on the matter due to this fantastic development. At first we were hesitant to do so, knowing that a lawsuit had been brought against the sons in this story. We wondered if they were being subjected to undue pressure.
However, that does not appear to be the case. This seems to be a true and heartfelt reconciliation. I have been communicating with the dad, Pastor Bob Grenier, over the last couple of weeks and have decided to take this at face value. We had numerous conversations with Alex and Paul Grenier as well as Tim Taylor when we wrote their original stories. We have also heard directly from Alex regarding this current development.
We will be removing these stories from our site in the coming days as we revamp the blog. Here is a link to those stories but they will go dead @ 4/16. If you choose to read the stories, please read them in the light of this reconciliation. My understanding is that the Phoenix Preacher has also scrubbed the posts from his site. He had followed this story very carefully.
TWW has not been subjected to any legal threats in order to make us remove the posts or for anything else. (Really and truly). Our goal on this blog is to support those whose stories we have told and that is what we are doing here. My exchanges with Bob Grenier have been nothing but respectful.
We want them to tell the story in their own words. I think you will find this quite moving.
I asked him if there was anything he would like me to convey to our readers. Here is what he emphasized to me.
Yes, we are reconciled. The lawsuit was dismissed without any conditions. All accusations have been withdrawn. Both Alex and Paul have apologized for what they did. And our family is back together again.
Focus on the Family is considering an interview. CSN is going to run this (ed. note-the video below) on 450 radio stations, and a number of other radio stations will be airing a ready made program of the audio. Two TV stations in Denver will be running this as well.
Paul's Letter of Apology/Recantation
Dear Pastor/Wives/Assistants/Elders/and Workers.
Through all of my terrible choices, hurtful words and hateful actions, my parents never stopped praying for me. They never stopped loving me. They always prayed fervently that God would bring change in my life. Gayle and Bob Grenier never stopped believing God's work is done in a person's life. As a young child, growing up in Calvary Chapel, I often remember my Mother saying that Pastor Chuck would preach, "Prayer doesn't change God's mind or God's purpose, prayer does change something – it changes us." Those words could not be truer in my own life today.
My Mother and Father never gave up on me. I hurt not just my own family, I hurt the family of Calvary Chapel as a whole. With deep respect, I hope that you accept my apology and I humbly ask that you allow me to show you with my actions and not words, my deep regret, and repentance for the sin and damage that I caused. My Father, Bob Grenier, was able to forgive me for the terrible and false accusations that I made against him molesting me and being a child abuser. I don't know how my Dad found it in himself to forgive me. But he must have dug deep inside to do it. And he has shown me forgiveness, unconditionally.
My, Mother, Gayle, forgave me with open arms and with a gentle heart. To know my Mother is to love her. In the very darkest of times for their own congregation, they prayed for me. This is so very true to the founding principle of God's grace being bigger than any of us. This is what Pastor Chuck and Kay believed when God called them to start their ministry so many years ago. Many of you may not know, that my Mother became a Christian when Pastor Chuck and Kay first started their ministry when she was a teenager. Many times as a child I have heard her recount them meeting with all of the hippies and outcasts under the tent. She always spoke to me of how gracious Pastor Chuck and Kay were toward those that needed it the most. Those who were lost and were sinners.
I have learned that forgiveness and reconciliation is an incredibly generous thing. Especially, when you really screwed up. For me, this is not an issue of wants vs. needs. It's an issue of wants vs. priorities. And my priority is to try and right the wrongs I made. I believe after all of that I have experienced the only way to do that is, to be honest, and transparent and call it for what it is. The fact is I am a deeply flawed person, that lied because I was angry. And that anger only grew and hurt so many others. And I can tell you today at almost 36 years old, that being angry and trying to hurt people, only hurts you. You can't hurt God. He will only keep loving you.
I am grateful that I have a family and friends that have been Christ-like and forgiven me. I won't ever forget that kindness.
I hope if any of you feel that you have made a mistake or feel it is impossible to rectify a relationship that has been destroyed by your own mistakes, that within Calvary Chapel, you are surrounded by a family that loves you and will forgive you unconditionally. I know this to be true because I watched Pastor Chuck and Kay practice this their entire lives. And I've also watched my Mother and Father strive to do the same. And I am so very grateful that God's grace is still at work in their lives and in Calvary Chapel as a whole. And also in all of your lives. A good friend of mine, Millie, recently reminded me that God's work is never done in our lives.
Alex's Apology and Recantation in Front of the Church and His Parents
Please take the time to watch this video. It is quite moving.
Tim Taylor's Retraction
An settlement has been reached between Tim and The Grenier Family. Here is his statement.
“I hereby retract any statements made by me in my prior posts on this and other websites and the verbal statements I have made concerning Bob and Gayle Grenier in the past. I specifically retract any statements made by me that Bob Grenier engaged in any improper and/or illegal activities including stealing from the church or any other entities or individuals. I also specifically retract any statements made by me stating that Bob Grenier committed child abuse or molested his son. I regret making the statements I have made about Bob and Gayle Grenier and ask for their forgiveness.”
We would ask our readers to be sensitive to this situation as they comment.