“Young men would have more of a struggle seeing bad stuff, so what we’ve done with the smartphones that we’ve had, we’ve actually locked out Safari and any Internet search at all, and then we’ve just had basic apps,” Jim Bob.
Recently, Julie Roys posted Jill Duggar Dillard Says Father Jim Bob Treated Her ‘Worse’ Than Pedophile Son. Jill Duggar, one of the older sisters of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, married Derick Dillard. This marriage and the wedding of her sisters, Jessa and Jinger, would eventually launch the sisters’ inevitable backlash against their authoritarian, controlling, Gothard-spouting mom and dad. Jill was not educated beyond homeschooling. However, her husband went to law school and became:
an Assistant District Attorney with the State of Oklahoma, District 27.According to his LinkedIn account, the former TLC personality is a “practicing attorney” and is “licensed in Arkansas and Oklahoma.”
This eventually led to Jill and Derrick bravely speaking out about what appears to be abusive behavior on the part of her father in her new book Counting the Cost. In the article at the Roys Report, which summarizes some excerpts from the book, she says (and I believe her):
- (ed.: Addressing her parents) “You treat me like I’m a prodigal who’s turned her back on you,” “You treat me worse than you treat my pedophile brother.”
- The Dillards had sent a detailed letter (ed.:to Jill’s parents) describing their frustrations with the control Jim Bob Duggar exercised over their lives.
- Michelle Duggar claimed a recent letter and text message from her daughter, Jill, was “disrespectful.” Jim Bob spoke of being “offended” and demanded an apology, standing up in the meeting as a “sign of aggression”
Apparently, her parents, seemingly displeased, released a statement that should go down in history as one of the most brain-dead statements by two people who sold their family and soul to the media.
In a statement to media, Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar said: “We love all of our children very much. As with any family, few things are more painful than conflicts or problems among those you love. We do not believe the best way to resolve conflicts, facilitate forgiveness and reconciliation, or to communicate through difficulties is through the media or in a public forum so we will not comment.”
In addressing the conduct of her brother, Josh, who is thankfully imprisoned for his participation in viewing child sex abuse ( child porn), she said:
Dillard also spoke of her “anger” towards her brother Josh, who abused her and her sisters, as well as towards local government officials, who allegedly disclosed details of that abuse to the press.
It looks like Mom and Dad Duggar will have to watch Jill become a warrior against abuse.
We are still going to fight for victims’ rights through Derick’s line of work,” she said,
Importantly, she expressed concern for her many siblings.
We really wanted to tell our story for my siblings, because some of them are going to face similar challenges, if they haven’t already, to what I’ve faced.”
A Jurassic Park-type containment field will never work for humans. It didn’t even work for the dinosaurs.
Dee is banging her head on the kitchen table. Years ago, she gave a talk based on the original Jurassic Park book. Let’s start with Chaos Theory, which was mentioned in the book. Notice I highlighted “brain states.”
Chaos is the science of surprises, of the nonlinear and the unpredictable. It teaches us to expect the unexpected. While most traditional science deals with supposedly predictable phenomena like gravity, electricity, or chemical reactions, Chaos Theory deals with nonlinear things that are effectively impossible to predict or control, like turbulence, weather, the stock market, our brain states, and so on.
This is implied and defined as the Butterly Effect.
The Butterfly Effect: This effect grants the power to cause a hurricane in China to a butterfly flapping its wings in New Mexico. It may take a very long time, but the connection is real. If the butterfly had not flapped its wings at just the right point in space/time, the hurricane would not have happened.
In Jurassic Park, the park attendants reportedly were supposed to keep people safe from the obviously unpredictable dinosaurs. They employed every invention known to mankind to keep those dinos contained. Still, the dinosaurs got out due to various predictable (humans are fallible) and unpredictable events, and many screenwriters, producers, and directors made a bundle of the series of movies.
What does Jurassic Park have to do with the Duggars?
I had a pastor who often discussed how people want to control life, especially Christians. Every individual develops a playbook with a bunch of rules that they can keep. They then believe they are being good Christians because they follow those rules. However, they have cooked the books. They picked the rules they liked the most and ignored all the rest. For example, a man with controlling, abusive behavior (there is a reason I chose these sins) might pick Gothard’s “immediate obedience” for his children and then say that men should keep their hair short(something he prefers.) He institutes harsh penalties for the three-year-old child who will not comply. He is proud of teaching his three-year-old how to model ‘Christian’ obedience. In the meantime, he is a controlling bully to his family and those he works with. His children grow up controlled on the outside but are quietly seething inside. His rule book says he’s fine, but he made the rules. In reality, he’s a failure.
He forgot that sin is always present.
Let me throw in another problem for the authoritarian bully. He can never fully control his children. What did Luther say?
Simul justus et peccator
This means at once justified and still a sinner. That means no matter how hard one tries to control behavior, it doesn’t work. Dad is a sinner and doesn’t see his very real problems. He also misunderstands that he cannot stop sin by merely spouting an outward expression of behavior. In the meantime, things are going on inside the kids, and they are not able to discuss this with their parents since their feelings and concerns might seem threatening to Mom and Dad’s belief that all is well.
Josh is the shining example of this failed uber control on the part of the parents. They would tell the kids to hide their eyes if a woman walked by, presumably dressed in today’s manner of dressing. They were not allowed to swim publically, and the girls were required, around their brothers, to wear ridiculous bathing suits reminiscent of a bygone era. Remember, girls were supposed to help a man not to lust.
It didn’t work. Josh molested a few of his sisters and went on to be convicted of using internet material of children who were sexually abused on camera for the pleasure of men like Josh. See the quote from Jim Bob at the top of this post. This was said before Josh was exposed. Jim Bob felt that if he put apps on the phones, his kids wouldn’t see such stuff. His son saw the worst of the worst. He looked good on the outside, and he was deeply disturbed inside.
The parents believe he is innocent. They have to do so to hold onto their rulebook. They enforced the right rules so Josh can’t be guilty. Mom and Dad couldn’t (or is that wouldn’t)imagine they had a budding pedophile in their midst.
Kids grow up.
I began covering the Duggars when I started this blogging in 2009. I found their family life, as exhibited in the media, strangely disturbing. Jim Bob came across as a bully. Michelle was harder to figure out. Was she a victim of a controlling bully, or was she an authoritarian herself? As time has progressed, I am inclined to believe that Jim Bon and Michelle may both be controllers, but I am open to differing points of view on this one. I am firm in my opinion of Jim Bob.
It was a photo that caused me to worry about the children. I cannot reproduce it because it belongs to AP, but here is the link.
It was all too controlled and perfect, and I began to aggressively follow the family with the assumption that something would happen, and it did. I still remember a man who wrote me and asked, “Why are you so negative about how the girls dress and wear their hair? They seem to be nice girls being raised well.” I said that a group of children raised to develop their talents and gifts don’t each act and look the same without pushback. I believed there was something wrong with this family.
As time passed, I learned that the Duggar home had two kitchens, with the one on TV always looking pristine. The real kitchen was a mess like it would be in a home with 19 kids. If a child acted up, the scene was reshot when they were brought back under control and the segment refilmed. They presented a false image to the world who wanted to see a ‘perfect’ family.
They attempted to control their kids and the media. They may finally come to the realization they can’t control anyone. They will be revealed to the world of employing controlling and (IMHO) abusive behavior, which will come back to bite them in the nose, especially as they keep implying that Josh “didn’t do it.”
Jill grew up, and the gig is up for Jim Bob, and Michelle.
Jill grew up and married a man who supports her as she speaks out. So, let’s begin our own 19 and ‘counting on’ who in the Duggars are speaking their truth or who are presently in prison. I predict that there will be many more children added to this list.
That’s 21%. I wonder how long before it gets to 50%? Keep me posted as you hear about the others. Jill hinted that there may be more in the future.
It is my belief that Jim Bob Duggar is a controlling, authoritarian, money-obsessed, and somewhat abusive man who used his brood of kids for his own financial benefit and wouldn’t see his own sin. He also forgot that his kids would grow up and would use media just as effectively or even more so than he does. He is discovering that he is losing control. I am not sure about Michelle. She clearly placed her husband’s wishes over those of the kids, which is disturbing. Is she just as controlled as the kids, or is she Jim Bob in a dress?