Prepare to be amazed! This is the God we serve. Not some mean God who wants women to get severely and consistency abused before they leave a marriage.
“All violence consists of some people forcing others, under threat of suffering or death, to do what they do not want to do.” – Leo Tolstoy
Christianity Today posted Wayne Grudem Changes Mind About Divorce in Cases of Abuse which is subtitled:
Leading complementarian theologian says he no longer believes the Bible offers only two justifiable reasons for ending a marriage.
Apparently, this recent change in belief was not the result of deep theological study and hours spent in prayer. Nope, it was due to something that would have gotten any theology student in one of his classes a flunking grade… “personal experience.”
Except, sometimes personal experiences helps to illuminate Scripture. According to Grudemn:
“My wife Margaret and I became aware of some heartbreaking examples of such things as severe sexual humiliation and degradation that had continued for decades, and another case of physical battering that had gone on for decades,” he told CT. “In all these situations the abused spouse had kept silent, believing that a Christian’s duty was to preserve the marriage unless there was adultery or desertion, which had not happened.”
Today I tweeted.
Folks, Grudem will never be able to fully repair the damage he did(and continues to do) by teaching his warped view of Scripture when it comes to domestic violence and divorce. There are many of his fanboys who applied his theology in churches all over the world.
How can you tell? Take a look at the average Calvinista church and check their resources page. I bet you that Grudem’s Systematic Theology is listed as *the* theology book for the church.
However, it’s not time to jump up and down and say “Lesson learned.” Grudem still believes that a woman should be open to the possibility of abuse so that the church can pursue Christian counseling and hubby can get him some church discipline. Then, if she keep getting smacked around, just maybe this might could (as we say in the South) be a case for divorce. Sadly, woman are still not safe. Notice in the above quote what a woman had to endure before Grudem got a clue. Decades??? of abuse!!!
If the abusing spouse is a Christian, then counseling and church discipline should be pursued, but if abuse doesn’t stop then a church leader should consider that this may be a case where the victim is free to seek a divorce.
I happen to know that there are some pastors who are probably sweating this announcement. These are the pastors who have sent women back into homes with broken arms and broken hearts. I intend to tell those stories. It appears that embarrassment and scorn are the only ways to get these men to rethink their paradigm.
Folks, continue to question the paradigm. Women (and men) are at risk when Grudemn’s thoughts on abuse, past or present, are applied by unthinking pastors. We must take care of our people as opposed to using them as some experiment to see if Christian counseling *works.*