"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her…"
Given what has happened this week with Gospel Coalition blogger Jared Wilson, I have no doubt that God is sovereign. First of all, how ironic that Jared published his post “The Polluted Waters of 50 Shades of Grey, etc.”, featuring Doug Wilson on Friday, July 13th. Secondly, when Dee was writing her post last Monday (7/16), she simply wanted to demonstrate that several TGC bloggers have been promoting Doug Wilson of late. She linked to the most recent one (Jared's) without having read the post! Dee just wanted to show that Doug is gaining favor with The Gospel Coalition crowd.
I am pleased to say that some of our TWW readers actually click on the links we include in our posts. When one of them read Dee's post and followed the link to Jared Wilson's post extolling Doug Wilson, she became upset. Why? Because Jared included this excerpt from Douglas Wilson's book Fidelity: What It Means to be a One-Woman Man:
"Because we have forgotten the biblical concepts of true authority and submission, or more accurately, have rebelled against them, we have created a climate in which caricatures of authority and submission intrude upon our lives with violence.
When we quarrel with the way the world is, we find that the world has ways of getting back at us. In other words, however we try, the sexual act cannot be made into an egalitarian pleasuring party. A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts. [emphasis mine] This is of course offensive to all egalitarians, and so our culture has rebelled against the concept of authority and submission in marriage. This means that we have sought to suppress the concepts of authority and submission as they relate to the marriage bed.
But we cannot make gravity disappear just because we dislike it, and in the same way we find that our banished authority and submission comes back to us in pathological forms. This is what lies behind sexual “bondage and submission games,” along with very common rape fantasies. Men dream of being rapists, and women find themselves wistfully reading novels in which someone ravishes the “soon to be made willing” heroine. Those who deny they have any need for water at all will soon find themselves lusting after polluted water, but water nonetheless.
True authority and true submission are therefore an erotic necessity. When authority is honored according to the word of God it serves and protects — and gives enormous pleasure. When it is denied, the result is not “no authority,” but an authority which devours."
After an exchange between Jared Wilson and some disgruntled commenters, Jared wrote this comment: "Welcome, Wartburg Watch." Well, I guess we're now on The Gospel Coalition watch list. To be clear, neither Dee nor I encouraged ANYONE to post a comment in response to Jared's post. The dialogue between these upset commenters and Jared became highly imflammatory with Jared claiming that he had been misunderstood.
If you clicked on the above link (Jared Wilson's post extolling Doug Wilson), it takes you to a post written by Rachel Held Evans, which we highly recommend. Why are we not linking directly to Jared Wilson's post? Because earlier today he finally decided to follow the advice of Wade Burleson and others and removed the post.
Here is some of what he wrote:
"I deserve a lot of the chastisement I am receiving, and the rest I give up to God, who is more than able to sort out truth from lies, understanding from misunderstanding. He doesn’t need the help I’ve tried to pridefully offer him. I can trust him with my reputation.
What I First Did Wrong
My first foolishness in posting the original excerpt was not to heed Douglas Wilson’s disclaimer in the beginning of his book. He characterizes it as a “blunt instrument” and describes the particular audience he is writing for. That should have been my first indication either not to post the piece at all or to have at least posted it with a sufficient prefatory warning or more parsing of context. Either way, the blame for the insensitive bluntness of the blog post is not his, but totally mine."
Jared Wilson then concludes with these words:
I thought about that grocery store incident a lot in the last few days, and that’s why my first apology is due to my brothers and sisters in The Gospel Coalition and to my other complementarian brothers and sisters. I have brought ill repute upon you with my foolishness and rashness, and I ask your forgiveness.
But more importantly, my words hurt others whose pain runs deep and whose healing is difficult. I don’t want to load this apology up with words, because it is the most important part of this to me, and I want to be clear: For those offended or shamed, or otherwise and in any way burdened by my blog posts, your pain in this matter is totally my fault. Please forgive me.
Because I don’t believe a confessor should have the last word, the comments are open. And as before, you can still email me at jared AT gospeldrivenchurch DOT com.
Thanks for reading.
Christ is all."
You can read Jared Wilson's entire post here. He probably had no idea one week ago today that he would be issuing such an apology.
One of the lessons that has been learned from this fiasco is that the blogosphere is truly a small world after all. This dust up caused quite a stir throughout the internet community. For example, here is how Chaplain Mike over at the Internet Monk responded: Sex, Authority/Submission and Remarkable Insensitivity.
It will be interesting to see whether the mainstream press takes an interest in this story.
Jared Wilson is a relatively new blogger over at The Gospel Coalition. In his post This blog has moved (published January 23, 2012), Wilson explains that he is honored to be "joining the ranks of the bloggers at The Gospel Coalition site".
Those belonging to the John Piper fan club might be interested to know that Jared Wilson Tweets not only as himself but as the infamious Fake John Piper (@fakejohnpiper). At least that was true back in January 2010 when Brandon Smith interviewed Wilson. Here is what Smith wrote:
"After reading his book and blog (The Gospel-Driven Church), Jared became one of my favorite pastors to read and listen to, and his Tweets are always great as himself and the infamous Fake John Piper (@fakejohnpiper)."
We understand that in the midst of the turmoil this week, Jared Wilson passed a kidney stone. As a sister in Christ, I do pray that he is doing much better. While I am grateful that Jared finally had the courage to apologize, I do believe that what transpired this week is representative of the Young, Restless, and Reformed crowd. They can be an arrogant, self-assured, domineering bunch, and I believe their attitudes are detrimental to the cause of Christ.
From our vantage point, it appears we have reached a tipping point in conservative Christian circles. Dee and I are deeply troubled by some of the rhetoric coming from The Gospel Coalition ranks, and we believe some drastic measures need to be taken before patriarchy conquers the coalition. Your gullible and easily deceived blog queens will have much more to say in some upcoming posts. Read at your own risk…
Lydia's Corner: Malachi 1:1-2:17 Revelation 21:1-27 Psalm 149:1-9 Proverbs 31:10-24