An abuser isn’t abusive 24/7. They usually demonstrate positive character traits most of the time. That’s what makes the abuse so confusing when it happens, and what makes leaving so much more difficult. Miya Yamanouchi
Patterson is a big game hunter and makes frequent trips to Africa
In June 2009, two rather audacious women, who were writing a blog that no one (except our friends) read, wrote A Call for Paige Patterson’s Resignation From the Ministry. (Please forgive the formatting – old platform and no time to make it look better.) Of course, no one read it and no one really cared. However, we were right in our thinking way back then, and now the world is jumping on board.
Paige Patterson rejoiced that a woman got beat up because her husband came to church. He did not report this incident to the police as far as we can tell.
Over the weekend, Jonathan Merritt picked up on Patterson’s dangerous statements on domestic violence, made at (of course) a Council of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood conference back in 2000. Note something: Did anyone at that conference jump up and tell him that his thinking was wrong? Of course they didn’t! Remember, the same people who were there way back then are still there now. Now, they love to pretend they are concerned…
The Washington Post is now picking up on this. The comments by seminary leaders should be taken with a grain of salt as I shall prove in this post. They are the ones who supported Patterson and went to ceremonies that honored him by naming buildings after him. So their newfound concern seems a bit smarmy to me. Some of these same folks also support CJ Mahaney. Oh yeah, they are really concerned about abuse….
And Christianity Today weighs in as well.
Back in 2009, Deb worked hard to transcribe the audio, but now we have the actual link to his statements.
Here is what we had to say in 2009.
The reasons why churches cover up sexual abuse and domestic violence are beyond us. The Bible is replete with admonitions to care for the lost and downtrodden. Who is more let down than victims of these crimes? We can only think of one possibility — murder victims. Perhaps it’s fear of lawsuits or disbelief that a minister could do such things. Frankly, there are no excuses.
Let’s start with Patterson’s view on domestic violence. Guess what? We have his own words on this subject, and he’s very proud of himself. This transcript is also available in audio via the internet. It requires a bit of a search because someone, who realized Patterson’s words are damning, attempted to expunge the record. They were uttered before the internet became an important factor in everyday life, so we’re certain Patterson never realized his address an a conference sponsored by the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood(CBMW) would become available to the general public. In fact, when we came across his view on domestic violence, we didn’t know anything about CBMW. That’s what alerted us to this organization.
“The Southern Baptist Outpost has an article with an excerpt from audio recordings and transcripts from a conference in 2000, in which Paige Patterson explains the counsel he gave one battered woman.
“I had a woman who was in a church that I served, and she was being subject to some abuse, and I told her, I said, “All right, what I want you to do is, every evening I want you to get down by your bed just as he goes to sleep, get down by the bed, and when you think he’s just about asleep, you just pray and ask God to intervene, not out loud, quietly,” but I said, “You just pray there.” And I said, “Get ready because he may get a little more violent, you know, when he discovers this.” And sure enough, he did. She came to church one morning with both eyes black. And she was angry at me and at God and the world, for that matter. And she said, “I hope you’re happy.” And I said, “Yes ma’am, I am.” And I said, “I’m sorry about that, but I’m very happy.”
“And what she didn’t know when we sat down in church that morning was that her husband had come in and was standing at the back, first time he ever came. And when I gave the invitation that morning, he was the first one down to the front. And his heart was broken, he said, “My wife’s praying for me, and I can’t believe what I did to her.” And he said, “Do you think God can forgive somebody like me?” And he’s a great husband today. And it all came about because she sought God on a regular basis. And remember, when nobody else can help, God can.
And in the meantime, you have to do what you can at home to be submissive in every way that you can and to elevate him. Obviously, if he’s doing that kind of thing he’s got some very deep spiritual problems in his life and you have to pray that God brings into the intersection of his life those people and those events that need to come into his life to arrest him and bring him to his knees.”
Let’s go through his words. Patterson sent a woman home to an abusive husband and rejoiced when she returned to church with two black eyes because her husband came to church. What is wrong with this statement?
- He had a moral and legal obligation to report the assault on this poor woman to the police.
- He seems to think that the man coming to church means the man will not longer be an abuser. This is a naive and dangerous statement for a man who is supposedly educated. He had no idea, at the time, if that man would abuse again. In fact, statistics would seem to indicate that the husband is at high risk of doing it again.
- He appears to push the agenda of the need for a women to be submissive to a man, even when it means she is put in harm’s way.
- He does not mention getting this woman to a place of safety, nor does he mention getting her counseling and supportive help.
Here is Patterson’s statement on the Twitter frenzy.
Has he learned anything? Nope. He denies that he did anything wrong.
Press release from Paige Patterson
By Paige Patterson on Apr 29, 2018
For the past several months, my life and the lives of my family have been subjected to rigorous misrepresentation. Even had I done some hideous wrong of which I am accused, my wife, children, and grandchildren have not and do not deserve such mischaracterization.
For the record, I have never been abusive to any woman. I have never counseled or condoned abuse of any kind. I will never be a party to any position other than that of the defense of any weaker party when subjected to the threat of a stronger party. This certainly includes women and children. Any physical or sexual abuse of anyone should be reported immediately to the appropriate authorities, as I have always done.
I have also said that I have never recommended or prescribed divorce. How could I as a minister of the Gospel? The Bible makes clear the way in which God views divorce. I have on more than one occasion counseled and aided women in leaving an abusive husband. So much is this the case that on an occasion during my New Orleans pastorate, my own life was threatened by an abusive husband because I counseled his wife, and assisted her, in departing their home to seek protection. In short, I have no sympathies at all for cowardly acts of abuse toward women.
Many years ago in West Texas, a woman approached me about the desire of her husband to prevent her attendance in church. He was neither harsh nor physical with her, but she felt abused. I suggested to her that she kneel by the bed at night and pray for him. Because he might hear her prayer, I warned her that he could become angry over this and seek to retaliate. Subsequently, on a Sunday morning, she arrived at church with some evidence of physical abuse. She was very surprised that this had happened. But I had seen her husband come into the church and sit down at the back. I knew that God had changed this man’s heart. What he had done to his wife had brought conviction to his heart. I was happy—not that she had suffered from his anger, but that God had used her to move her husband to conviction of his sin. I knew that she was going to be happy for him also. That morning, he did make his decision for Christ public before the church, and she was ecstatic. They lived happily together from that time on in commitment to Christ. There was no further abuse. In fact, their love for one another and commitment to their home was evident to all. She herself often shared this testimony. For sharing this illustration, especially in the climate of this culture, I was probably unwise. However, my suggestion was never that women should stay in the midst of abuse, hoping their husbands would eventually come to Christ. Rather, I was making the application that God often uses difficult things that happen to us to produce ultimate good. And I will preach that truth until I die.
The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood released a statement regarding abuse with which I agree entirely. I do not believe there is a woman or girl ever associated with me who would allege any abuse on my part. To all who love me and have supported me across the years and to those who have been wounded by these accusations, I express my deepest regret. I do not apologize for my stand for the family and for seeking to mend a marriage through forgiveness rather than divorce. But I do greatly regret that the way I expressed that conviction has brought hurt. I also regret for my own family this deliberate misrepresentation of my position as well as the hatred that lies behind much of it.
Paige Patterson, President
Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary
Fort Worth, Texas
We are going to disprove this statement made by Patterson after the following information.
I do not believe there is a woman or girl ever associated with me who would allege any abuse on my part.
CBMW chimed in with their #metoo statement on abuse in March 2018, almost two decades after enjoying Patterson’s talk.
There is no apology for allowing this stuff to be spoken under CBMW’s watch. Again, many of the same folks who were there back then are still there. Why should we believe that they care about abused women?
STATEMENT ON ABUSE
We believe abuse can be defined as any act or failure to act resulting in imminent risk, serious injury, death, physical or emotional or sexual harm, or exploitation of another person.
We condemn all forms of physical, sexual and/or verbal abuse.
We believe that the biblical teaching on relationships between men and women does not support, but condemns abuse (Prov. 12:18; Eph. 5:25-29; Col. 3:18; 1 Tim. 3:3; Titus 1:7-8; 1 Pet. 3:7; 5:3).
We believe that abuse is not only a sin but is also a crime. It is destructive and evil. Abuse is a hallmark of the devil and is in direct opposition to the purposes of God. Abuse must not to be tolerated in the Christian community.
We believe that the local church and Christian ministries have a responsibility to establish safe environments; to execute policies and practices that protect against any form of abuse; to confront abusers and to protect the abused, which includes the responsibility to report abuse to civil authorities.
We believe that church and ministry leaders have a special obligation to report abuse to civil authorities. Moreover, these leaders are responsible for knowing the laws of their state about reporting the suspicion or accusation of child and spousal abuse, and for following those laws in good faith.
We believe that the church must offer tender concern and care for the abused and must help the abused to find hope and healing through the gospel. The church should do all it can to provide ongoing counseling and support for the abused. The wounds of abuse run deep and so patience and mercy are needed over the long-haul as the church cares for the abused.
We believe abusers need to confess their crimes both to civil and church authorities, to repent of their sin, and to trust in Jesus Christ alone for salvation and forgiveness from their sin.
We believe that by the power of God’s Spirit, the Christian church can be an instrument of God’s love and healing for those involved in abusive relationships and an example of wholeness in a fractured, broken world.
*Adopted by the CBMW Board of Directors March 12, 2018
TWW sends its profound sympathies to the woman who was abused and then reabused by Patterson’s despicable statement. If she would ever like us to tell her story, we would be more than happy to comply. Our contact information is at the top of our blog.
It gets even worse…
Paige Patterson ignored the reports of 25 women who claimed they were sexually molested or harassed by Darrell Gilyard.
Let’s get back to Patterson’s statement. ”
“I do not believe there is a woman or girl ever associated with me who would allege any abuse on my part.”
We allege that Patterson did contribute to the abuse of women by refusing to report or even hear complaints of sexual abuse. This is reason #2 that we wanted him to step down. Christa Brown, of Stop Baptist Predators, posted this article from the Dallas Morning News. It is a devastating account of Patterson’s refusal to accept report after reports of abuse by young women.
Patterson refused to see the women who complained of Gilyard’s sexually abusive behavior.
Though many of the women who say they were involved with Mr. Gilyard said they feel guilt over their participation, they are angry at church officials who, they said, did little to protect them. One woman who said she had had a long-term affair with Mr. Gilyard said her phone calls requesting a meeting with Dr. Patterson were not returned. “His secretary said unless I had proof, he wouldn’t see me.’ Others recall meetings with church officials at both Victory Baptist and First Baptist churches who drilled them with questions about their emotional stability and their relationships with other men.
In August 2009, we wrote What Is Truth? The Deebs were in shock! We couldn’t believe this stuff was going on in the SBC.
We believe it is highly probable that Paige Patterson knew of Gilyard’s sexual escapades, yet did nothing about his horrendous behavior. Here’s an article from the Dallas Morning News dated July 14, 1991, where Patterson calls for witnesses and proof in order to take action against someone.
“Dr. Patterson said, “I was unwilling to call anyone guilty until I had demonstratable evidence that these allegations were true.’ Dr. Patterson said that according to Scriptures, action cannot be taken against a minister accused of adultery unless there are two or more witnesses. He also asked for any other proof, such as photographs, videotapes or laboratory tests.”
Christa Brown went on to write further on this matter.
As reported in the Dallas Morning News, Gilyard left Concord Missionary Baptist Church in Dallas in 1987 after about 25 women complained of his “sexual misconduct.” The senior pastor, Rev. E.K. Bailey, “assumed that would be the end of Darrell Gilyard’s bright evangelistic career.” How tragically wrong he was.
At that time, the First Baptist Church of Dallas and Criswell College president Paige Patterson were promoting Gilyard in Southern Baptist churches. He was considered a rising star. Despite the many allegations against Gilyard, First Baptist officials “decided there was not enough evidence” to further investigate Gilyard, and, according to Rev. Bailey, Paige Patterson wrote him “an unkind letter” saying that “he would have come out to my church and solved the problem for me if I had told him first.”
Apparently, 25 accusations weren’t enough for Paige Patterson. In fact, according to the Dallas Morning News, Patterson painted “Gilyard as a victim” and suggested the accusers were motivated by “jealousy, frustration and racism.”
Patterson wanted “demonstrable evidence” such as “photographs, videotapes or laboratory tests.” Despite 25 women’s accusations, Patterson and First Baptist “continued to recommend” Gilyard.
Gilyard would go on to other churches and engage in the same behavior. Thanks to Paige Patterson’s neglect in this matter, more women were abused. Eventually, Gillard was arrested and sent to jail. He was then released and guess what? He was hired by another Baptist church, which proceeded to get his probation terms changed in order to allow this despicable offender to minister to children once again.
Did Patterson originally report this abuse to the police? Not on your life! He is morally responsible for al subsequent molestations by Darrell Gilyard. He should have his head in shame. Instead, he will be enshrined, along with his BFF, Paul Pressler, in a stained glass window at SWBTS’ chapel.
And people wonder why The Deebs get bent out of shape at times? There is much more to write about Patterson, including his firing of Dr Sheri Klouda, which proves that he has little use for women in academia and was willing to cause serious pain to the entire Klouda family.
However, let’s switch topics.
SBC seminaries honors Paige Patterson way beyond the pale.
- Patterson Hall at SEBTS
- Presidential Award SEBTS
- A huge, expensive and free retirement home for the Pattersons on SWBTS campus
- SBTS E.Y Mullins Award
- A stained glass window in SWBTS chapel
Sadly, the SBC has a tainted history when it comes to the abuse of women and sexual abuse by pastors and churches. The Deebs knew about this stuff back in 2009 and that is why we have continued to write.
I wonder if any of these seminaries ever thought about the abuse victims? Did any of them protest these awards? Did all of the current swath of SBC seminary leaders and mega pastors attend all of these award ceremonies and slap each other on the back? I know a few who did…
I have a suggestion. I think the SBC should reach out to all of those abused by Darrell Gilyard and offer to pay for their counseling instead of building Paige Patterson a Mcmansion for his retirement.