“If your flirting strategy is indistinguishable from harassment, it’s not everyone else that’s the problem.”
― John Scalzi
This is going to be a short post. Today, it is possible you will see 3-4 shorter posts so we can keep everyone up to date on both the Willow Creek and the T4G 2018 conference.
Today, Nancy Beach, one of the women quoted in the Chicago Tribune article, posted WHY WE CAN’T MOVE ON This is an important post for those who want to understand women and men who have been victimized in churches. I hope that Willow Creek members and friends, who have been poorly representing those who have been hurt as well as being angry at those who are the advocates, will read and learn. God is allowing this to happen for a reason.
Since I have not asked permission to post the entire response, I will only quote a portion. Please read the entire statement here.
This morning, following the announcement of Pastor Bill Hybels last night, I suspect most of us just want to take a deep breath, exhale, and move on. This entire situation has been heartbreaking, divisive, and, frankly exhausting. All of us have jobs to do and families to lead.
…So why can’t we just MOVE ON? Here’s why:
The Womens’ Stories Are Not Yet Fully Told – There can be no healing until the truth is all brought into the light. I know you don’t want to hear this…..but there’s more to come. And we must not ignore the voices of these women or they will be abused all over again. Bill Hybels is not the victim here!
There Can Be No Healing Without Repentance – Last night I heard no confession of deceit or admission of guilt for sexual misconduct. For the church and its leaders to move on there must be full ownership of what was sinful and flawed in the process. Only then can we hope for healing and restoration, for light to come from the darkness.
...Keep Leaning In -Take only one brief exhale and then buck up and prepare to head into the fray once again. This is a very complicated story. I have been wrestling with it for over three years. I call all of us to be thoughtful, to dig deep, to ask questions, to read fully. Resist the temptation to ignore the story or sum it all up in a quick sound bite.
TWW continues to believe and stand with the victims at Willow Creek. I wish we could give you a hug and cry with you. So do many others.
We called for the resignation of Bill Hybels. We also believe that other leaders, who knowingly covered up, lied about or minimized the stories of these women, should also resign.