“I believe that sexual offenders and predators should be released…as long as it is mandatory they get to move into the house next door to the judge that released them.” ― Heather Chapple, Write like no one is reading link
Note to attorneys: All of the stories that are discussed in this post have not been tried in court. However, some reports have been given to the local District Attorney so maybe that will change. TWW is simply relaying the allegations of the victims. However, as is the case at TWW, we only print stories that we believe to be true. Our hearts go out to the brave victims and their family who have put up with much pain in coming forward with their stories. You are all wonderful. May God give you all strength in the days ahead. We are here for you.
The more we dig the more we find. A couple of weeks ago, I received a call from a individual whose name will be protected. He asked me if I had heard anything about the resignation of the lead pastor, Dustin Boles, from the Mosaic Church Gulf Coast, which is in Ocean Springs, Mississippi. . The church membership was reportedly told that this was a simple case of marital infidelity. However, he had learned that Boles had been rubbing women's legs and laps under tables, without their consent, during Bible studies!
Amy Smith or Watch Keep and TWW team up, once again, to expose the Dustin Boles/Mosaic Church situation.
The two of us set to work to discover what was going on. Things broke wide open last week when Kevin Kaminky, the husband of one of the women who was allegedly assaulted, contacted Amy when he saw one of her tweets asking about the Boles situation. Also, she noticed this other tweet and we knew something bad probably happened.
Within a couple of days, we felt like we understood the general flow of the alleged events. Nonetheless, as you will see, things are developing from moment to moment and we will update the story as it goes along.
Both of us had opportunities to talk with Kevin Kaminky who is allowing us to use his name. He has also provided the screen shots, etc. Amy has now spoken to another victim and will be assisting her in reporting the attack to the authorities. We have spread the word that both Watch Keep and TWW will print and stories of the victims, if they wish.
Boles started a church in Keller Texas which closed as few years later.
Boles received his Masters of Divinity from Liberty University. He also served in the Air Force. Here is link to his Facebook page. He then started Harbor Family life Church in Keller, Texas. Why did this church close?
Are there victims in Texas?
2. He reportedly worked for a short time at The Met Church while setting up The Mosaic Church model.
I wonder if there were any reports of odd behavior on the part of Boles when he was at The Met. The Mosaic Church has a moral obligation to ask.
3. Boles' Mosaic Church met with success according to the local media.
WLOX posted A different kind of church grows rapidly in 2010, about two years after the church was founded. Here are a couple of quotes.
In anyone's book, Mosaic Church is a religious success story. The church began a little more than two years ago with just 19 people on board. Now it has more than 1400 members.
…"Well, we're real laid back here," Toth said. "We just preach the bible, we preach Genesis to Revelations, and we have a great pastor that really brings it to us this day and age. I just really like it, like the music." Speaking of the music, the church band brings down the house every Sunday, and brings up the hearts of those listening.
…But perhaps the most important things about Mosaic Church is something that comes from the heart, according to Pastor Boles. "It would break my heart for somebody to come into our church and feel unwelcome. That would kill me."
Amy Smith attempted to contact WLOX via Twitter regarding the Boles' allegations. She asked a couple of questions and they blocked her which we found rather interesting. We both wonder what sort of relationship the reporters at WLOX have to the local churches. People are quite friendly with one another in small towns in the South. Ocean Springs has a population of @17,500
4. Boles resigned from Mosaic Church this summer, perhaps in early July. (Does anyone have an exact date?)
Prior to this resignation, he posted the following comment on Facebook. I find the final sentence a bit ironic, considering the allegations that would become public.
5. Prior to Boles' resignation, Kevin Kaminky allegedly witnessed Boles rubbing the leg of one woman at a gathering of church friends. He would then learn that his wife was suggestively rubbed on her leg and her lap, under a table at the same party.
At the end of this post, you will read Rachel Kaminky's brave recounting of the evening she was assaulted by Boles. It is important to realize that the Kaminky's were long-time, close friends of the Boles family. For example, they would go out to eat together about twice a month. Suddenly, after the alleged assault, that changed. The Kaminkys obviously feel betrayed by their friends. Kevin would eventually confront him but Boles blew him off, telling him that this was *no big deal.*
There have been other allegations regarding Boles' behavior with women in bars/casinos in the area. I was told that the church leadership was aware of these allegations and addressed them with him at some earlier date.
6. Is Boles' wife involved in enabling her husband to continue in this behavior?
In Rachel Kaminky's post which is copied at the end of this report, you will see how Boles' wife appeared to attempt to distract Kaminky from her husband's behavior. Her behavior is concerning. Is she involved as an enabler?
7. Kaminky said that he is aware of two other women who were allegedly assaulted by Boles. One allegedly had a full sexual encounter with Boles.
Kaminky and his wife have reported their incident to the DA. Apparently, two other women will (or have) done so as well. So this story is only beginning.
8. Boles allegedly read his written resignation before the church. He was vague about what exactly occurred, seemingly alluding to an affair.
Kaminky was allegedly told by a church leader that someone, outside the church, had donated a generous sum of cash to keep the Boles afloat due to the loss of income. I find this statement odd. Where did the money really come from?
Kaminky said that Boles was allegedly told that as long as he stayed out of the pastorate for 3 years, then there would not be any *repercussions.* As far as Kaminky knows, the church leadership did not report Boles' behavior to any authority outside of the church.
9. Boles began a job with Alvix Labs in August
This raises a question. How did he get a job with no medical or business/sales background so quickly?
10. Dustin Boles attacked Rachel Kaminky on Facebook, saying that she assaulted him in an Uber car.
The *she* in the comment is Rachel Kaminky. I bet the truth of this could be tracked down by tracking down the Uber driver but I bet that won't happen… These Facebook comments have been deleted.
11. His wife also attacked Rachel on Facebook.
I apologize for the blurriness of the comment but it is the clearest it can get.
12. The Boles have allegedly just bought a house a couple of doors down from one of his victims!
Kevin Kaminky just learned about this today. Unbelievable! They are selling their current house in order to buy this house. The victim has been in touch with Amy Smith and we will post updates on this story ASAP. Apparently Natalie Boles has also accepted a job in the school system as a teacher.
13. Here are further Facebook comments written by Boles. File under *poor me.*
It is important to understand the sequence of events. Kevin's wife did not tell him about the assault until the next morning. She told him after he mentioned seeing Boles rubbing another woman's leg. She was so embarrassed and humiliated that Boles, who was a long time family friend, would do this. I reassured them that this was a normal response by a woman who has been assaulted by a friend, especially one who is a pastor who they had trusted.
14. Boles recently alerted his former friends that he received an offer to undergo restoration and counseling at the Oasis Church.
Knowing that predators often lie, Amy and I contacted Oasis Church. The lead pastor, Eric Camp, had this to say when I asked him if he knew of the allegations against Boles.
I proceeded to caution him about Boles and his background. He then replied:
16. Mosaic Church is part of the Acts 29 network of churches. What a shock…
The Mosaic Church's leadership was silent about the extent of the allegations against Dustin Boles. We are sure that Matt Chandler and Acts 29 will not breathe a word either. Once again, complementarian churches FAIL to prevent abuse even though they keep telling us that complementarianism is the only way to prevent abuse.
17. Mosaic Church has a moral obligation to ascertain if there are any other victims of Dustin Boles.
If these allegations prove to be true, and I believe that they will be, there are probably more victims. The church should reach out to all who attended the church. His alleged actions that lead me to believe that he grooms his victims over a period of time. He probably tests them to ascertain how far he can go with them. He starts by first touching them inappropriately. Such behavior then escalates. It has been alleged that he had at least one sexual encounter with a church member. Could there be more?
Most predators have assaulted a number of victims by the time they are caught. So, it is not inconceivable that there are many more victims. If the church does not attempt to reach out in this situation, then they could be in trouble as more victims come forward. Also, it is possible that there could have been underage teenage girls who have been approached. (I have contacted Mosaic Church for a statement but have not hears from them.)
Mosaic Church,Acts 29 and Matt Chandler: Do The Right Thing! Think About The Victims!
Here is the post by Rachel Kaminky. Rachel, we believe you and you are in our prayers. Please let us know if we can help you or any other victims.
Thursday, July 21, 2016
"Me Too" has been a common phrase we use at church. I've always loved the phrase because we all suffer from sin. We all have our own personal demons that we struggle with. "You cuss? Me too!" "You struggle with a gross addiction to nicotine? Me too!" The list goes on. It's helpful, right? We're not alone in our sin. But more recently, I've seen the phrase been used in regards to our Pastor and his "confession" that led to his resignation. When I see the phrase used in this case, I am overwhelmed with hurt and anger because I don't know if people would be saying, "me too" if they knew the truth. Our congregation deserves to know the truth. And after weeks of silence, I want to share it.
I have spent hours praying and talking with friends on how to handle this situation. When you're sexually assaulted by a dear friend and Pastor, how do you go about handling it? I don't have the answer to that. All I know is that trying to heal from something that my predator has yet to acknowledge is very difficult. Trying to heal from something so horrific to only see people in his corner because they don't know the truth is maddening. How does one heal after being sexually assaulted by a dear friend and Pastor? Anyone?
As my Pastor has said in his recent FB post, good friends were apart of his sexual sin. What he fails to mention is that we are victims of his sexual sin. I loved him as my friend, Pastor, he called us family. I considered him my family. I trusted him, my husband trusted him and my children trusted him.
Like many evenings, one particular evening was spent with said couple. I started this evening like any evening spent with them — Lightheartedly. It turned into an evening that is one of the most traumatizing of my life. My Pastor and dear friend sexually assaulted me. He forced his will on me, under the table, while our good friends and my husband sat feet away. When he started, I sat like a statue, unable to react, speak, think. I wanted it to go away. I didn't want to believe my dear friend and Pastor was capable of this. I was numb and heartbroken. My friend who was sitting across the table saw what was happening. We both kept quiet, we both pretended it wasn't happening. We both wanted to protect our good friend and Pastor.
The sexual assault didn't end there. It continued throughout the evening. My only thought was, "I can't let my husband see this, he will kill him." But I had no intentions of ever telling anyone, at this point I wanted to protect my friend and the thousands of people who believe in him. The thousands of people who attend our church to hear him speak. HOW can this be happening? I'm being sexually assaulted by a man that thousands look up to. I continued to endure the sexual assault and did my best to keep everyone's attention elsewhere. "Don't look down, don't look down, don't look down. I'll keep talking about nonsense so they don't look down."
Eventually, it was the end of the night and my husband abruptly whispered to me, ”We are leaving, NOW." We walked to his truck as said couple followed us out. My husband sat in the driver's seat, I'm in the passenger and my children in the back. His wife was at Kevin's window and my Pastor was at mine. She distracted Kevin so my Pastor could continue his sexual assault on me. He reached into my husband's truck and continued to touch me while she kept my husband's attention. Meanwhile, my innocent children were in the back seat and that realization is physically painful, thinking back. What if they saw their Pastor's hand in my lap? I tear up thinking about it. With that, I have a very hard time believing his wife didn’t see what was happening. In fact, I whole heartedly believe she saw after hearing a confession from another victim. Again, I sat in silence. I thought if I ever told my husband, he would kill him. I just wanted it to go away.
On the drive home, Kevin shared with me why we needed to leave immediately. He saw our Pastor touching my friend's leg in the hot tub. My husband was sick about it, I sat it shock now realizing I'm not the only one. I confessed to my husband what happened, we spoke with the other victim that eventually turned into victims and the rest followed.
I am so fearful to share this. Fearful that people who don't believe me will do ugly things that will indirectly affect my children. I'm afraid to come across as vengeful. I'm afraid my predator will come after me in some way once he finds out I've told everyone. But the truth is, I live in fear every day since this happened. I live with a heavy heart, I live in pain. Because of one man's selfishness, he's affected so many aspects of my life. My life is already lived in fear/sadness/anger, so why not share the truth? People deserve to know.
I believe everything our Pastor said at the pulpit. I believe every word. My faith has not changed, Jesus is King. Jesus will heal me. He has never left me. Where was Jesus when my Pastor was touching me? I'm still having a hard time with that. Our Pastor was capable of doing this and getting up the next day and speaking God's Word. I can't wrap my head around that. My heart aches for everyone, but not for our Pastor. My heart aches for my children who have had to witness a broken mother. My heart aches for the other victims. My heart aches for the congregation. My heart aches for the church as a whole. My heart just aches.
I struggle with knowing if this is an appropriate thing to speak publicly about. I've stayed silent out of fear but I don't want fear to control me anymore. I allowed fear to control me that night and allowed a man to touch me only where my husband has, something I still don't understand and hate myself for.
Weeks after this happened, I am left with feelings as though it was yesterday. My heart physically hurts. When I hear of different things being said, I am sucker punched all over again. The truth not being told is continual torture for myself and the other victims. I hope my post helps the other victims come forward because what happened to me pales in comparison to what has happened to them. And I hope sharing this painful experience will protect women. I feel responsible to protect potential victims from this.
I do believe in our common phrase as a church, "Me too." I believe in supporting others through their sin because we are all sinners. But I ask of those who are full supporters and will continue to be full supporters of our Pastor, remember the women and husbands of the women he has victimized. Please remember the daily struggle it's been for us. There will be years of healing for us.
And for those who may hurt as I am right now after reading this, I want to apologize to you. I am sorry you're hurting. If you're hurting, I'm right there with you. Me too.