Deb and I are extremely upset. As you know, we stand with those who are alleged victims in the growing SGM scandal. As all of us have learned today, SGM, and CJ Mahaney have admiring support by prominent Neo-Calvinist leaders. Have any of them picked up the phone or their mouse and attempted to communicate with the alleged victims? We would love to hear about it if they did so.
It's really not so hard. Last year, a friend and I visited a neighborhood which had been victimized by a pedophile. We simply got out of our car, looked at the former lair of the pedophile, and were instantly surrounded by neighbors who told us their stories. Later in the week, we took them some home baked goods to show that we cared. Surely these men, who are leaders, have done at least that, haven't they?
Today, we have discovered that TGC not only fully supports one side of this scandal but that they are willing to throw an alleged victim under the bus to advance their agenda. In so doing, they have removed any doubt in my mind that they have hearts of stone.
Here is a quote from their post at TGC today link. Note the words "ominous threat from a woman."
Reports on the lawsuit from Christianity Today and World Magazine (among others) explicitly and repeatedly drew attention to C. J., connecting the suit to recent changes within SGM. He has also been the object of libel and even a Javert-like obsession by some. One of the so-called discernment blogs—often trafficking more in speculation and gossip than edifying discernment—reprinted a comment from a woman who issued this ominous wish, "I hope [this lawsuit] ruins the entire organization [of SGM] and every single perpetrator and co-conspirator financially, mentally and physically."
We are not ashamed to call C. J. a friend.
Since TWW has been accused, in the past, of being a discernment blog by one of the TGC leaders, we immediately thought that this statement referred to us. It deeply concerned us because we do not wish anyone bodily harm and are opposed to such threats. We embarked in an effort to find such a comment in our stream and could not. Wishing to be diligent, we posted the following comment on our home page, top post link.
Update: We need our readers' help. TGC said the following:
One of the so-called discernment blogs—often trafficking more in speculation and gossip than edifying discernment—reprinted a comment from a woman who issued this ominous wish, "I hope [this lawsuit] ruins the entire organization [of SGM] and every single perpetrator and co-conspirator financially, mentally and physically."
Since we think they may be referring to us, can anyone remember such a comment? We would never condone physical threats to anyone. Is it possible we overlooked a comment which should have been deleted or does anyone recall this comment being written or reprinted on another blog?
One of our alert readers, Caleb W, assisted us in this matter. Thank you so much, Caleb, because you have unearthed a can of worms!
That comment seems to come from an SGM Survivor’s Story: http://www.sgmsurvivors.com/2013/02/04/anons-story/
I am going to reprint this post/comment from SGM Survivors, which now apparently joins us in being called a "discernment blog." Be prepared to be mad. Kris, through the years, has provided a forum in which the abused have a voice. Without this blog, the "alleged" (for the lawyers) pain and suffering in SGM would have remained concealed. TWW and many, many others applaud the efforts of this blogger. Yet she is now being accused by these leaders of
often trafficking more in speculation and gossip than edifying discernment
The following comment, which TGC has brought to light, are the words of a woman who was allegedly RAPED during an SGM gathering. I capped the word because we need to understand exactly what sot of pain may have been inherent in this remark.
I’m just going to share a little story and some minor commentary at the end.
One Superbowl Sunday, I was at a prominent SGM (then PDI) member’s house. There were dozens of others in attendance, lots of teens and younger adults. Remote controlling and commercial censoring were in full effect, snacks were in abundance, and everything was so biblical…as biblical as recently invented sports events centered around electronic devices can be. During a commercial break, I was sexually assaulted against an exterior wall of that house.
I was thirteen.
Not a single one of those appointed to ‘watch over’ anything, much less my soul, noticed a thing when I and the perpetrator went back inside the house. I doubt it would have mattered anyway. My family was in the outer circle, despite decades of $$$ and attendance. I started “rebelling” thereafter and refused to attend any church functions, and my parents surprisingly didn’t seem to mind (despite them not knowing the reasons for my rebellion). They severed ties with PDI/SGM 2 years later.
Why bring this up? I think it’s quite telling that despite the micromanagement of ‘biblical living’, horrible things have not only slipped under the radar of those ‘caring for our souls’ (etc., barf) but have been actively hidden, squashed, silenced. The pending lawsuit is long-deserved. I hope it ruins the entire organization financially and every single perpetrator and co-conspirator financially, mentally and physically.
At this juncture, unless there are expressions of regret for this statement by TGC, I have washed my hands of trying to convince these men to care for the "alleged" victims. This comment alone illustrates their hardheartedness. This is the example of godly manhood?!! To call out a young woman who was alleged sexually abused? I am sick and need to stop writing before I say things that I will regret.
Deb will write more later in the day.