“The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference.” Elie Wiesel link
What it's all about
Oh good night! Just when I thought Mark Driscoll was settling down, he is being quoted all over the news media for his comments on "nagging wives." It appears he just cannot help himself. He reminds me of Doug Wilson who seems to like Driscoll link.
On April 15, 2013, we presented an overview of a debate between Thabiti Anyabwile and Doug Wilson link. Wilson, rightly or wrongly, has been accused of latent racism. To be fair, he vehemently denies such a claim. While reviewing this fascinating back and forth dialog, I noted the following.
To compare the horrors of racism to TD Jakes Trinitarian theology (or lack thereof) is insensitive to Anyabwile's discussion. To make matters worse, TD Jakes is also an African American which could lead some to think that Wilson just might have a problem with racial animosity. There are a thousand white preachers he could have quoted to make his point but, no, he had to quote a black guy.
Wilson knows he has a widespread problem with the public's perception of his views on racism, slavery and the Civil War. It would seem to me that anyone, with an ounce of common sense, would be most cautious in how he presents his viewpoints to a watching world. Instead of going after TD Jakes in that conversation, he could have made his point by picking any number of white pastors who have doctrinal problems: Joel Osteen, Ed Young Jr., etc.
At times, it appears to me that he is deliberately goading his audience. Such tactics will only draw the ire of those who already find him off-putting. The old "Do not cause your brother to stumble" would seem like a good approach in this context. I am willing to bet that he disagrees with my usage of this verse in this context. But, then again, maybe he doesn't give a hoot. And that could be the real problem.
In the same way, many people find Mark Driscoll's expressed views on women, along with his perspectives on other subjects like punching his elders in the nose, intimating that Queen Esther was a slut and making fun of British clergy cassocks which he calls dresses, irritating. In other words, it appears to some that Driscoll has both a gender and anger management problem. Now, deep down inside, he may be a loveable little bunny but he externally projects Rottweiler.
Now, let's say Mark suddenly realizes that he is perceived as a misogynist. He truly believes that he is not and he wants to change that perception. (I know, it is a very big assumption but play along). How do you think the following sermon helps his cause?
Here is an article from the Huffington Post titled Mark Driscoll, Megachurch Leaders, Says Nagging Wives Like Water Torture link. If he is concerned that the world does not understand what he means, he should want to clear things up in the following 7 minute video. You can skip the video and still read the controversial comment but the video puts it in perspective.
Here is the targeted comment from the post.
Women who are quarrelsome, who are nags, they are not submitting in accordance to the Bible, Driscoll says.
"Being married to [nagging wives] is like a life sentence, and the guy’s just scratching on his wall every day," he told the congregation. “Proverbs talks about certain women—they’re like a dripping faucet. You ever tried to sleep with a dripping faucet? Plunk, plunk, plunk, plunk, plunk. It’s what we use to torture people who are prisoners of war."
So much for jumping back into the fray in a thoughtful fashion. I would say this is just one more epic fail. In fact, he appears to have irritated the writer for the Huffington Post who goes on to quote (and remind us) some of his other more recent controversial statements.
- Obama is most likely not a Christian.
- Masturbation is a form of homosexuality if one's wife is not present.
The article end with a quote that called his recent sex book:
evidence of Mark’s pervasive obsession with sex and a degrading view of women
This proves my point. Driscoll could have been sensitive to his past controversies and carefully treaded these waters. He didn't. So, it would be reasonable to speculate that he is deliberately goading his audience. If so, he violates 1Corinthians13:1 (NIV-Bible Gateway)
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
That is what some of us are becoming to our culture: big, clanging cymbals. Is it any wonder that people are not listening? We have met the enemy and it is us!
To end this post, I want to share an email that we received. This has been a particularly hard few days for me. I read this email prior to an unexpected conflict involving my participation in this blog. The folks involved do not understand what this community is all about and what you all mean to Deb and me. I put this note here with the hope that those few people will read and understand. Can God use atheists as prophets? The timing of this email was incredible since I received it about 24 hours before learning of the conflict. I have no doubt that this note was sent to encourage me and it did. I send thanks to this dear reader. You helped me to remember what is important.
Dee, my name is ******* and I have spent some time at your great website Although I'm no longer a Christian in any sense of the word and would part ways with your religious belief system, i admire the work you have done on your website by exposing the charlatans, con men and abusive cult leaders in contemporary American evangelical Christianity.
I know Christianity, per se, doesn't have to be oppressive and cult like. If many evangelical Christians were like you, this world would be a better place.
Unfortunately, I'm willing to bet you receive your share of abuse from "Christians" for daring to expose these people, but know this unbeliever appreciates what you're doing.
Lydia's Corner:1 Samuel 20:1-21:15 John 9:1-41 Psalm 113:1-114:8 Proverbs 15:15-17