What white man has ever seen me drunk? Who has ever come to me hungry and left me unfed? Who has seen me beat my wives or abuse my children? What law have I broken? Sitting Bull
In September, 2012, TWW reported on a story about a Calvary Chapel Pastor, Bob Grenier, who was suing his own son. This situation is the opposite of the SGM lawsuit in which those who were abused are suing those who allegedly covered up their abuse. In this situation, Alex Grenier, the adult stepson of Bob Grenier, came forward to report that he was physically abused by Bob Grenier after Bob married Alex's mother. Another brother alleged that he was sexually molested by Bob.
TWW wrote about this despicable turn of events in a post, Calvary Chapel-Mini-Moses Bob Grenier Sues His Own Son here. Here is a link to a blog, Calvary Chapel Abuse on which Alex began to tell his story of abuse. We also thank Julie Anne Smith who is dedicated to seeing this situation publicized. Please read the entire post for the background. Here is an excerpt about the alleged abuse from the post.
Brutal is making your children watch while one of your brothers is beaten, punched and kicked. Brutal is laughing at your child after you have beaten and humiliated him in front of his family. Brutal is hitting your child with a wooden log all over his body. Brutal is making your children go in the backyard and “pick the switch” that they will be whipped with all over their backs and buttocks. Brutal is making your child count out loud the number of times they will be hit. Brutal is making your child thank you and tell them how wonderful and responsible it is that you just beat them.”
“Brutal is locking your child in a small, dark closet. Brutal is punching your child in the face and then kicking him out his home because you are so afraid that it is going to be front page news that you are a child abuser disguised as a Pastor. Brutal is then kicking that child out and laughing at him because you have cut him off from his mothers and brothers. Brutal is not letting your wife talk to her son for 10 years. Brutal is threatening the rest of your children that they will be cut off if they talk to their estranged brother.”
“Brutal is telling your child to put their hands behind their backs and that it is ok because you aren’t going to hit them. Brutal is then hitting that child in the face so hard that they fall to the ground.
“Brutal is making your child eat an entire pack of cigarettes and swallow them and laugh at them as they vomit and cry because they tried smoking in high school. Brutal is telling your children you don’t love them. Brutal is telling your children you wished they were never born and you never planned on having them. Brutal is beating one child so badly that they are scared and whimpering like a small animal, and then having another one of your children sit on your lap and profess how they are your favorite and how much you love them. Brutal is watching your older brother and sister-in-law in agony over the fact that they might lose their newborn baby boy.”
So, why am I writing this post today? Bob Grenier is a Calvary Chapel pastor in the town of Visalia, California, a city of 150,000. He is suing his son and Tim Taylor, a friend, for publicly defaming him on a blog. Tomorrow, there will be an initial judicial impression on the merits of the Anti-Slapp that has been filed in regards to Bob Grenier's despicable lawsuit against his own son. (Yep-I have an opinion on this one). Next Tuesday a judge will hear arguments on the Anti-Slapp if there is no definitive decision tomorrow.
Many of you remember when Julie Anne Smith was sued by her pastor. Her lawyers filed an Anti-Slapp and she won, just as I predicted. Here is an explanation of the Slapp law from Wikipedia link.
A strategic lawsuit against public participation (SLAPP) is a lawsuit that is intended to censor, intimidate, and silence critics by burdening them with the cost of a legal defense until they abandon their criticism or opposition.
The typical SLAPP plaintiff does not normally expect to win the lawsuit. The plaintiff's goals are accomplished if the defendant succumbs to fear, intimidation, mounting legal costs or simple exhaustion and abandons the criticism. A SLAPP may also intimidate others from participating in the debate. A SLAPP is often preceded by a legal threat. The difficulty is that plaintiffs do not present themselves to the Court admitting that their intent is to censor, intimidate or silence their critics. Hence, the difficulty in drafting SLAPP legislation, and in applying it, is to craft an approach which affords an early termination to invalid abusive suits, without denying a legitimate day in court to valid good faith claims.
Here is a concern about this situation. Bob is part of the Visalia community. He serves as the chaplain for the local police department. Many influential members of the community attend Calvary Chapel which raises the specter of favoritism towards Bob Grenier. However, I was also concerned about the close community surrounding the Penn State/ Joe Paterno/Sandusky scandal. The Penn State community did not let the abused young men down.
Due to increased awareness and understanding of the extreme psychological stress on young children due to abuse, police and other members of the legal establishment now understand that it is difficult for a child to report such horrific crimes. As people age they begin to understand that they were not to blame for the abuse and are more willing to come forward. Although the events are reported years later, the memory of that abuse is still fresh. This was clearly demonstrated by the litigants against the Catholic church.
The State of California has somewhat stringent statutes of limitations on reporting such crimes. By the time that Alex was willing to discuss this situation with law enforcement, it was beyond the limitation date. He wanted to get the word out that there was an abuser in his family.
Bob Grenier is still pastoring a church and has access to children in that venue. Alex bravely decided to talk about his pain in order to alert the people to a potential abuser in their midst. For those of you who subscribe to the strange doctrine of the pastor being like Moses, I have one thing to say. Moses screwed up and God punished him. He was not allowed to enter the Promised Land. So, your Mini-Moses is not exempt from sin either.
Documentation has been submitted to the court by those who have been witness to some physical abuse on the part of Bob. I have copies of them in my possession. Alex's brother, Paul, has submitted and detailed his own sexual abuse by Bob. We will attach Paul's deposition at the end of this post. Warning: it will make many people sick.
I believe that child physical and sexual abuse are the types of crimes that most decent people find amongst the most contemptible. I believe, as was seen in the Penn State scandal, that members of a tight knit community are willing to break the common ties of friendship and business connections to see that an alleged abuser is brought to justice.
I feel strongly that the sentiment throughout the United States is one of appropriate horror at the recurring, revealed abuses of children. A change in the public attitude has occurred in the past decade. The Catholic church lawsuits proved that even people, who love their church and their clergy, are willing to speak out on behalf of the innocent children who were so badly harmed. I have to believe that the police and the judiciary system of Visalia, California, will join those throughout this country, and even throughout the globe, who have appropriately condemned such assaults on our children.
I staunchly believe in the merits of the accusations against Bob Grenier that I gave Tim Taylor my private cell phone number and asked him to call me with any updates. As I talked with Tim, I recalled my initial conversation with Julie Anne Smith over a year ago. I remember how upset and concerned she was about the lawsuit. I told her that she would win the Anti-Slapp and to keep good track of all of her expenses. But, she still needed to endure the stress and pain of the lawsuit.
In my conversation with Tim, I sensed the same sort of pain and anxiety. I told him that the people who inhabit our blog will pray for comfort and peace as well as for justice to be served. I also believe that Alex and he will prevail in their Anti-Slapp request.
I have one thing to say to Bob Grenier.You have lost all moral and spiritual authority by this prolonged litigation against your son. Your son, Bob, your son! Have you no shame? Repent now because one day you, along with your wife, will stand before a Judge who knows the truth. May God have mercy on the both of you.
Here is an excerpt from Paul Grenier's deposition. I assure you that it only gets worse. If you can stomach reading more, click on the following link and then double click on the link on the page to which it brings you. P. Grenier Declaration iso SMTS text
Bob did, in fact, molest me. These are extremely humiliating and painful events to be forced to share publicly, but I am left with no other choice at this point since Bob has filed this lawsuit against Alex and while I would prefer not to be involved, I will in no way let Alex's name be tarnished for telling the truth.
Bob began sexually molesting me at the age of five years old. These episodes began in the small shower in the bathroom that adjoined his and Gayle's master bedroom. These abuses started with me being forced to shower with him naked against my will.
First, I was extremely uncomfortable and always had been by Bob walking around nude in front of me with his genitals exposed. And I knew inside of me at five years old that there was something wrong with having to take a shower with Bob. I knew that this type of behavior did not occur in the homes of my friends even at a young age.
The showers started with Bob washing me with soap and touching my genitals and my anus. I recall at least six occasions where Bob would insert his index finger inside my anus in what he would describe "to make sure I was clean." Bob would also have me wash his genitals wherein he would be in a sexually aroused state during these episodes and at times he would not.
On two occasions I was forced to perform oral sex on Bob. Typical to the combination of physical and sexual abuse I endured at Bob's hands, these showers would involve scalding hot water and I remember being in pain because of the heat of the water and also scared because of what he was doing to me.
Please join with me in praying for justice.